Today’s dating scene can be rough. Like, really rough. But you have gotten to the point that you have exchanged numbers with your potential love interest and now you feel unsure. How do you know if this guy is actually into you? How can you get a sense of how he’s feeling without getting clues from body language and tone?
There are an infinite amount of clues that can tell you how your perspective boo is feeling, but I am going to list the ones that I have always found to be the most helpful:
- He texts you first
- He texts back quickly
- Flirty emojis and inside jokes
- He tries to make you laugh
- Good morning/good night texts
- He asks you questions about yourself
- He texts you about things that happen during the day
- He texts you while out with his friends
- He tells you he wants to see you
- He likes hearing your stories
- Pet names
- He wants to help you
- He checks on you
- How to be 100% sure
1. He texts you first
Are you the only one putting in the effort to start a conversation or is he willing to put himself out there first? Of all the things on this list, this may be the most important one. This shows that he’s thinking of you and is interested in getting to know you more. Nothing feels better than having the energy you are giving be reciprocated.
2. He texts back quickly
Are you left hanging every time you text him? Or does his response usually come within a few minutes? If he is usually one to get back to you within a reasonable period and seems eager to answer your texts, he’s into you darling. BUT make sure you are doing the same so that he gets the same vibe and keeps it up!
3. Flirty emojis and inside jokes
Those flirty emojis are some of the easiest clues to decipher. Kissy face? Hearts? Even a peach emoji maybe? Coupled with inside jokes that may seem dumb to the outside world but make you two laugh every time shows that he is invested in making you smile.
4. He tries to make you laugh
Do you open your phone to a barrage of memes and hilarious TikTok’s that he has sent to you? He wants to make sure that you are feeling happy and know that he’s thinking of you when he comes across that perfect, hilarious, meme. The point is he is thinking of you. And who doesn’t love receiving something that makes them laugh throughout the day?
5. “Good morning” and “Good night” texts
Need I say more? Is there anything that warms your heart more than waking up to that “Good morning babe” text? He wants you to wake up with a smile on your face and also make sure that he starts his day off right, by talking with you. Once these start happening you know that he is beginning and ending his day with you on his mind.
6. He asks you questions about yourself
Have you ever tried to carry a text conversation with someone who only gives one-word answers to everything? It’s infuriating. If he is actually making an effort and giving actual answers to questions and even throws out some questions of his own, he’s definitely interested.
7. Compliments, compliments, compliments
Who doesn’t love being called beautiful, smart, and funny? If he’s texting these to you, he wants you to know how he feels about you.
8. He texts you about things that happen throughout the day
If you find that throughout the day he is texting you little quips about his day, he’s into you. We all do this. We love to tell those we care about what is happening in our lives, so if you are that person for him, he’s looking at you as more than a friend.
9. He texts you while out with friends
If he is out with his friends, but still concerned with letting you know that he’s thinking of you, this is such a good sign for your possible future together. Bonus points for him even telling his friends about you when they ask who he’s talking to that’s making him smile!
10. He tells you that he wants to see you
Texting is great and all. It’s a perfect way to start to get to know each other but does he make it clear that this is only texting? Or does he talk about how he wants to see you? If he is trying to set up face-to-face time, he wants to take this further than just a talking arrangement.
11. He likes hearing your stories
Have you ever texted someone about something you thought was hilarious/insightful/ infuriating/ etc, just to get the absolute minimum for a response? It’s maddening. If he is interested in your stories, asking questions about what you are talking about and trying to learn more, he’s definitely interested in getting to know you more. Just in general, showing an interest in you and what you enjoy is always a good sign.
12. Pet names
Although this sign may be a little harder to notice, it’s a definite sign that he’s interested. If he has you listed in his contact list as “Babe” or has hearts or other emojis by your name, he’s obviously interested. And isn’t that just the sweetest thing ever?
13. He wants to help you
Men like to be helpful. They are born problem-solvers. If you find that he’s giving you suggestions on how to fix something or to improve your problem, he’s concerned about you. He wants to try to make your day as great as possible. He’s not going to do this for just everyone. Embrace his words of advice and show gratitude for his willingness to help and he will keep coming back!
14. He checks on you
When you are having a hard day and don’t have time to text back and forth all day but still receive those little encouraging messages from him, he wants you to know that he’s thinking of you and cares. And really, is there any better feeling than knowing that someone you care about is thinking about you throughout the day? Especially if these messages are kind and not pushy in any way. If he understands that sometimes you will not always be able to respond quickly but still sends you words of encouragement, he cares for you and not just what you do for him.
15. How to be 100% sure that he’s into you
Ask him. Life is way too short not to know if you two are on the same page. You are a goddess and deserve to know if you are the only one with feelings in this or if he feels the same way. So ask him how he feels. Make sure that you two are on the same page. Ask questions, set out your expectations and he will for sure let you know where he is at in this relationship.
Go with your intuition. Does it feel like he is interested? Does he give off good vibes? Is he matching your energy? Your intuition is rarely wrong!
So in conclusion how can you know if that guy you are talking to is really into you? Look for those little signs. Even if this is a long-distance relationship, with these signs you will be able to decipher the clues that you are receiving from him but remember, straightforward honesty is always the best way to go. If you are having doubts about how he is feeling about you, just ask him!