Ready to mingle. Lone Wolf. Single Pringle. Forever alone. Have you ever had a label smacked on to your forehead by a group of friends or relatives that never seem to be satisfied with your relationship status?
Or maybe you’re the pessimist that’s got speed-dating fatigue. It’s so hard to keep facing rejection, or to get your hopes up while you’re in the honeymoon phase. Is there any point in searching for the mythical ‘One’?
We’re not here to answer that question. But we do think it’s worth meditating on the state of being single. We’ve shown you how to text a girl for the first time, a bunch of flirty pick up lines for when you’re not feeling the slickest, and even how to proceed with nabbing your latest crush. But life isn’t all about relationships. Feeling complete on your own is not only peaceful, but crucial to being the kind of person that makes their partner (if you choose to have one) happy. Read on for 25 memorable being single quotes on the joys and jarring realities that surround singledom.
25 Quotes on Being Single
You gotta stop wearing your wishbone where your backbone ought to be. – Richard from Texas, Eat Pray Love
How many of us spend more time in desire than decision? If a partner’s what you want, screw your courage to the sticking place, and get out there! Stop throwing coins in wells, and take steps to make changes in your life.
I’m single because I was born that way. – Mae West
A hard pill to swallow, but entirely true. You didn’t have anyone on your in, and you’re not taking anyone with you on your way out. You lose nothing by becoming the most reliable person in your own life.
If you truly want to be respected by people you love, you must prove to them that you can survive without them. – Michael Bassey Johnson
This quote doesn’t just apply to needy partners – it’s about whether you’re a confident person with your own individuality. Be careful that your own abilities, ambitions and personality are not in the shadow of a relationship.
He sleeps fastest who sleeps alone – Richard Avendon
Not true for all of us, but certainly the case for many happily single people who answer to none but themselves, and have only one set of issues. Not everyone considers caring for another person a privilege.
He who knows others is wise. He who knows himself is enlightened. – Lao Tzu
There are certain kinds of self-contemplation that suffer when we’re committed to another person. Our disciplined, spiritual self might not get the attention it deserves, even though we’re happy diverting that attention to our partner.
Being single doesn’t necessarily mean you’re available. Sometimes you have to put up a sign that says ‘Do Not Disturb’ on your heart. – Wiz Khalifa
Taking time to heal, time to run free, or just time to get to know yourself again is so nourishing. Set your boundaries, and reinforce them lovingly.
I never found a companion that was so companionable as solitude. – Henry David Thoreau
Thoreau made an art of his isolation, and it’s perfectly true that some people prefer their own company. Remaining single could help you cultivate that habit of being satisfied with silence.
I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It’s not. The worst thing in life is ending up with people who make you feel all alone. – Robin Williams
Even sadder in the wake of Williams’ death, this quote reminds us that being ‘together’ doesn’t guarantee feeling included, loved, or supported. Staying single beats a cold partner every day of the week.
Love yourself first, because that’s who you’ll spend the rest of your life with. – Unknown
Are you caring for yourself the way you’re caring for other people? Because you’re the one you’re stuck with for eternity. Treat your reflection with love, and try to control negative self-talk.
If you really are going to be happy single, you have to stop treating being single as the annoying time that you pass between relationships and embrace it. Rather than focusing on what you lack, focus on what you have: You. – Natalie Lue
You don’t have to be in liminal state any time you’re not head-over-heels. You are enough. You are important. Instead of chasing someone else, become the person you’d deem worthy of the chase!
Too many women throw themselves into romance because they’re afraid of being single, then start making compromises and losing their identity. I won’t do that. – Julie Delpy
Being afraid of loneliness is understandable, but not an excuse for smothering yourself in the process of finding a partner. Remember, a relationship has to be one of equals, not one conforming to another’s ideas.
Love is so short, forgetting is so long. – Pablo Neruda
Ironic from a love poet, but the deeper you fall, the longer the climb back up is. We’re not saying you should become a hermit, but little hurts more than true heartbreak. Would you risk it?
Associate with the noblest people you can find; read the best books; live with the mighty; but learn to be happy alone. – Saul Bellow
Live the high life, befriend everyone, luxuriate in your good company – you only get one chance to. But even if you enjoy the company of other people, and are happy when you’re with your beloved, being satisfied with yourself is essential.
I’m not searching for my other half because I’m not a half. – Unknown
Unlike a puzzle piece, there is nothing about you that is incomplete. Another human being cannot and should not fill the gaps in you – that’s your responsibility, and your incredible privilege.
There’s joy not far from here, I know there is. This isn’t everything you are. – Snow Patrol
We won’t pretend that being single is always a choice. Remember that the way your relationships ended do not define you, and that happiness can be found in a million different ways – sometimes, just around the corner, completely separate from love.
When asked why I am single, my reply is simply; I consider myself a black pearl rare in my authenticity, adding a mysterious beauty to the select few who can recognize & even fewer who appreciate my worth. – Sanjo Jendayi
There is only one of you! Take pride in your rarity, in the way you brighten people’s lives and enrich your surroundings. Never sell yourself short to one who does not see your value.
Taking solitude in stride was a sign of strength and of a willingness to take care of myself. – Jenni Ferrari-Adler
Single or committed, you belong to yourself. Treat yourself like a precious possession, and accept the duty of self-care; mind, body, and soul.
You are the flame, not the moth. And your job is to burn with conviction. – Heidi Priebe
Have you ever been accused of seeming overeager to date? Or of chasing any chance at love? Though you may deem yourself unworthy of attention, someone thinks you are intimidatingly, unapproachably unique. Don’t hide that light: letting your personality shine is what will draw people to you.
“You want to be single?” I said yes. And then I told her that I thought single was a stupid term. It made it sound like you were unattached to anyone, unconnected to anything. I preferred the term singular. As in individual. – David Levithan
Not having a partner on your arm doesn’t mean you’re unmoored – you can be your own anchor. They don’t need to be the fulcrum around which your life turns – that’s your spot, and your space to develop as a human being.
We have to be at peace with the prospect of many years of solitude in order to have any chance of forming a good relationship, or we’ll love no longer being single rather more than we love the partner who spared us being so. – The School of Life
The most common and possibly the worst reason to find a partner is to hate being on your own, or loving the idea of love. Jumping into a relationship because you’re sick of lonely nights is a recipe for disinterested, shallow bonds. Take some time to contemplate a future in which you’re single and happy.
Those venturing into singlehood are the Lewis and Clarks of a pioneering lifestyle with few maps, unexpected ambushes, and an infinity of adventures. Therein lies its glory. – Barbara Feldon
There is little more exciting than being free to face the unexpected. No one to consult before making an impulsive trip, no one to argue with over timing big changes, and the thrill of risking it all for your own pleasure.
Get to know who you are instead of waiting for some magical person to walk into your life and make you more adventurous, richer, nicer, smarter, sexier, or more relaxed in your own skin. […] At the end of the day, all anyone wants to be is loved and appreciated, not burdened with your unresolved issues. – Andrea Bain
Are you in a relationship because you want to be fixed, or because you want to fix someone else? Both are tricky. Neither necessarily promises a happily ever after. You are your own best friend – you can find control over your own circumstances.
It’s all about falling in love with yourself and sharing that love with someone who appreciates you, rather than looking for love to compensate for a self-love deficit. – Eartha Kitt
Don’t invite disaster in by asking someone else to love you when you don’t believe you’re deserving of love. That self-doubt creeps into every part of your life, including your relationship! Know and believe that you are worthy of good things.
A person who finds himself bored when he is alone – as it seems to me – is in danger. – Andrei Tarkovsky
The worst voices in our head are the loudest when we’re alone. Learning to get a leash on them helps us whether or not we’re single, but it also makes us more thoughtful people who appreciate our good fortune.
I am learning to love the sound of my feet walking away from things not meant for me. – Unknown
Whether or not you believe in destiny, there are turning points in all our lives that come in the guise of a broken heart. Your journey doesn’t begin and end with a relationship, or with another person’s exit from your life. You’re still centre stage – act like it.