Scorpio Man: The Transformative Lover

Want to get inside of a Scorpio man’s head? Having a hard time decoding his demeanor? With the help of Astrology, we can get a better understanding of the things we don’t understand. Let’s help you understand Scorpio men!

Before we dive in, let’s go over some of the basics of the zodiac sign Scorpio. 

Scorpios are born between October 23rd and November 21st. The Scorpio zodiac glyph is the scorpion, which perfectly portrays the tough exterior of Scorpios. Scorpio’s are very concerned with having their privacy, which can make them difficult to read. 

Moreover, Scorpio is the eighth sign of the zodiac and is all about uncovering depth in life. It’s important to note the order of the sign because it gives us a developmental perspective of that sign. Scorpio represents transformation, secrets, and getting to the bottom of things. Scorpio’s energy is very unique but intense, making it stand out from the rest of the signs. 

Scorpio is a fixed water sign, which makes them seek continuance and an emotional connection. The combination between fixed and water influences Scorpios to take their emotional connections very seriously. Scorpios can have a difficult time letting go and allowing newness into their lives because of this. Their ruling planets, Mars and Pluto, influence Scorpio to be action oriented and powerful. 

With that out of the way, let’s learn more about Scorpio men!

Scorpio Men Traits

Serious, reserved, powerful, jealous, dominating, penetrative, sensual, intense, possessive, committed, deep, secretive, mysterious, curious, intuitive, fearless, revengeful, suspicious, devoted, passionate, determined, protective, ambitious. 

Uncovering Scorpio Men: Personality, Tendencies & Trust Patterns

Scorpio men are the detectives of the zodiac. With these men, nothing goes undetected and they can sniff phoneys a mile away. They are naturally very observant and beyond that, extremely intuitive. You don’t have to say anything for a Scorpio man to have you all figured out. This can make them come off as intimidating, because they are the kind to listen more than they say. Scorpio men are quite reserved, but that doesn’t mean they’re shy. They are quite straightforward and powerful when they feel it’s necessary. 

Moreover, Scorpio men keep a kind heart underneath their mysterious aura. These men experience emotion on a deep level, and as a result are very empathetic. Due to this quality, Scorpio men are the type to take the shirt off their back for another. They are especially devoted to those they love and know they can trust. Additionally, Scorpio men are very interesting to get to know. They have layers to their personality, and only allow certain people to unlock the mysteries they hold within. Scorpio men are attracted to the extremes of life, and tend to gravitate towards taboo and/or misunderstood topics. They make great investigators and know how to get to the bottom of anything. 

Being ruled by Mars and Pluto, Scorpio men embody a unique dynamic to their persona. They are ambitious and headstrong, with a layer of depth that can sometimes seem impenetrable. The influence of Mars makes these men very resilient and persistent with the things they want. When a Scorpio has their eye set on something, they will obsess over it until it’s theirs. The Pluto influence takes this up a notch, adding intense focus and power to the Scorpio man. These men can achieve the impossible if they want it badly enough. This quality can make them seem overly intense, and as a result deter those who prefer to take a relaxed approach. 

Moreover, the combination of Mars and Pluto energy makes Scorpio men very magnetic. They possess a natural sex appeal that goes beyond the physical, as these men know how to reel you in energetically. There is a depth to their eye, and a self-assurance in their step that makes you feel safe yet curious. Scorpio men are the kind to leave people sitting at the edge of their seat, with their eyes wide with excitement. These men have a natural way of exuding their sexuality without it seeming forced. After all, it’s a natural part of their energy and isn’t something they have to consciously embody. Scorpio men have a way of making others crave more. 

When it comes to trust, Scorpio men are not quick to give it. These men are naturally very suspicious and guarded, which makes it difficult for them to trust others at first glance. Although they have very strong instincts, Scorpio men prefer to proceed with caution. They like to keep their defenses up while getting to know others, and prefer to sit back and observe. Ironically, they have a way about them that leaves others wanting to get their approval. While not impossible, Scorpio men are the type to test others. They will make sure that you are who you say you are, and will let you in only when they feel you have passed their requirements. However, once Scorpio men trust, they see it as a pact that is never to be broken.

Scorpio Men and Falling in Love: Love, Dating, & Sex

When Scorpio men fall in love, there is nothing that can get in between them and their lover. These men would move mountains for their partner, and don’t take falling in love lightly. Scorpio men see falling in love as something that is deep and sacred. There is nothing that can emulate the feelings that they feel when they’re in love. The depth of their emotions is so intense that these men can have a hard time expressing it verbally. These men show their love through action, and bold action at that. Scorpio men want you to know they are in love, but they will be quite mysterious about the depth of their emotion. When a Scorpio falls in love, you will just feel it. It’s not something that is observable and quantifiable, it is something that goes beyond your perceptions. 

Further, Scorpio men are very intense when they are in love. Even to the point of becoming borderline obsessive. These men are very devoted and fixate on the things that are important to them. When a Scorpio man falls in love with you, you will be his top priority. He will go out of his way to make you feel safe and protected within the relationship, always keeping a close eye on you. Scorpio men are quite competitive, so when they feel threatened, they are not shy to draw the line. This can make them come off as jealous and possessive, but underneath it all is a fierce lover that won’t settle for runner up. When in love, Scorpio men will stick with you through thick and thin. 

Scorpio men need to be the ones in charge. They have a difficult time giving control over to others and prefer to take the lead. This quality is apparent when they’re in love, but they tend to have a soft spot for their lovers. Scorpio men give their partners more leeway than they would anyone else. If their partner wants something, you can bet that Scorpio will go out of their way to get it. As long as it doesn’t stray too far from what the Scorpio expects. Further, Scorpio men will want to get to know the depth of your soul. He will ask provoking questions that lead into conversations that you’ve never had before. Scorpio men have a psychologist quality to them, and know how to dig deep into the psyches of their lovers. These men are looking for a counterpart to share their deepest and darkest secrets with. 

Dating a Scorpio man will leave you feeling like you are a part of an intense mystery romance. They will win you over with their intense gaze and their protective energy. Dating a Scorpio man is not for the light hearted! These men like to survey their dates and want to see what makes them tick. However, they are also very romantic and respectful lovers. Scorpio men like to take their dates to places that help the sexual tension intensify. Think, dimly lit dinners and cozy corners at a lounge! As intense as these men are, they can also come off as detached when dating. They like to keep their dates at arms length until they figure out what makes them tick. Expect dating a Scorpio to be a mystery in itself. 

Finally, Scorpio men take sex very seriously. They are the most sexual sign of the zodiac, making their appetite rather large. Scorpio men love to dominate their lovers and love to feel like they’re in control during sex. They are intense and passionate lovers that know how to connect with a person beyond the physical aspect. Scorpio men love psychological games during sex, and appreciate a partner that is willing to test their limits.

Turning a Scorpio Man On & Off

It can be hard to know what turns a Scorpio man on and off since they can be quite secretive. These are some of the things that these men love and hate! 

Turn Ons:

  • Intuitive lovers. 
  • Being comfortable with sexuality. 
  • Easy going people.
  • Transparency and authenticity. 
  • Unconventional conversations. 
  • Predictable and reliable lovers. 
  • People with depth to them. 
  • Motivated partners. 
  • Composed demeanors.

Turn Offs:

  • Phoney behavior.
  • Superficiality. 
  • Lack of commitment.
  • Prying too much.
  • Criticism and over analyzing. 
  • Overpowering personalities.
  • Hiding information or the truth.
  • Greedines.
  • People that are closed off and cold.

Best & Worst Astrological Matches for Scorpio Men

Compatibility can be quite nuanced, even when it comes to Astrology! Below are the best and worst Astrological matches for Scorpio men based solely on Sun sign. Remember that compatibility goes beyond the Sun sign, so make sure to check the rest of your charts to get the most accurate prediction. 

Most Compatible:

  • Cancer.
  • Pisces.
  • Taurus.
  • Capricorn.

Least Compatible:

  • Sagittarius.
  • Libra.
  • Gemini.
  • Leo.

Signs that a scorpio man has feelings for you?

Some signs that a Scorpio man has feelings for you are intense eye contact, frequent touching (hand on the shoulder, back, etc), asking questions to get to know you, paying more attention to you than others, staying close to you, his body language is facing towards you, he will be romantic, listen to you, and want to be around you often. Scorpio men can be secretive and mysterious, but it’s pretty obvious when they have feelings for someone. They feel very intensely and will likely have a hard time hiding that energetically. The best way to know is to try and tune into their energy. 

What a Scorpio man wants to hear?

Scorpio men want to hear that you are loyal and honest. These are the two most important things to Scorpio men. They want to hear that you find them interesting and unlike anybody else. These men pride themselves on being deeper than anyone else, so if you can acknowledge this, they will love it! Scorpio men also want to hear about your perspectives, and interests because it helps them get a better read on who you are. These men like to hear open-minded perspectives that go beyond the surface level. The more depth to your conversations, the better.

How to get a Scorpio man to chase you?

The best way to get a Scorpio man to chase you is by being independent. Scorpio men love to be in control and are very persistent, so the more independent you are, the more they will want to swoop in and take over. Giving them space is the best way to get these men to come running after you. The reason why is because Scorpio men don’t like feeling smothered, and they find someone that gives them space to be very sexy. However, don’t be too cold and noncommittal. Scorpio men tend to run away from people that seem emotionally unavailable and flighty.

Top 5 Gifts for a Scorpio Man

  1. Escape Room Tickets: Scorpio men love putting their detective hats on and solving a good mystery! Get his mental gears turning with an escape room experience. 
  1. Engraved Ring: A ring with your anniversary date or your initials is bound to make his heart sing! Scorpio men love items that feel personal and meaningful. 
  1. Psychological Book: Whether it be a psychological thriller or a book on learning more about human psychology. Scorpio men love getting lost in information to get to the bottom of things!
  1. Custom Journal: Ruled by Pluto, Scorpio men like to explore the depths of their emotions. What better way to do so than through journaling? Get him a journal with his name or nickname engraved on the cover for an extra touch. 
  1. Murder Mystery Dinner: Was it mentioned that Scorpio men love mystery? Well, they are also very competitive. The murder mystery was totally made for Scorpios!

Check Your Compatibility:

Scorpio and Aries Compatibility

Scorpio and Taurus Compatibility

Scorpio and Gemini Compatibility

Scorpio and Cancer Compatibility

Scorpio and Leo Compatibility

Scorpio and Virgo Compatibility

Scorpio and Libra Compatibility

Scorpio and Scorpio Compatibility

Scorpio and Sagittarius Compatibility

Scorpio and Capricorn Compatibility

Scorpio and Aquarius Compatibility

Scorpio and Pisces Compatibility

More in Zodiac Man:

Aries Man // Taurus Man // Gemini Man // Cancer Man

Leo Man // Virgo Man // Libra Man // Scorpio Man

Sagittarius Man // Capricorn Man // Aquarius Man // Pisces Man

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